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Focus of Week 3 – An Even More Caring You Emerges

January 21, 2013

It was Jaren L. Davis who stated, “If you want to better yourself, better your fellow being. If you want to feel the richness and warmth of unfailing love, give it. If you want to make a difference and leave your world a better place, let others know how important they are as you put their needs above yours.”  In this year of commitment to fabulousness and renewal, what better way to ‘feel better’ than to help others to feel better by sincerely caring for them.

We are in our post-Christmas season and the old adage, it is better to give than to receive, is still ringing in our ears.  The joy that is felt, when we care as much if not more for others, than ourselves, is immense.  Make no mistake, there are risks inherent in this self-improvement activity.  Authenticity is essential.  Relevant and purposeful caring connections to others is necessary if this is to be sustainable.  The ability to make a real difference, if only in the moment, makes this memorable.

Some of us are blessed in that we have professions that provide us with opportunities to authentically care for others each and every day.  Immediately we can think of nurses, pastors, educators, coaches, social workers, doctors…all of the people in these vocations have the fantastic ability daily, to care for others and make a profound difference in their lives.  It may seem counter intuitive, but interestingly, by reaching out, giving, engaging and caring for others, the energy and blessings that come back to us in return are immeasurable.

If you are not naturally affiliated with a job that facilitates ‘authentic caring’ for others, what can you do to cultivate this on your own?  Have you considered connecting with the seniors in your community?  Are there youngsters who would benefit from a ‘Big Brothers’ or ‘Big Sisters’ relationship with you?  Do you have some latent skills that need to be brushed up and applied in a volunteer setting where you could make a difference for others?  Consider your strengths and how you could offer them to benefit others.

If the idea of ‘putting yourself out there’ in this way sounds or feels disingenuous to you, why not try something simpler and closer to home.  For this week, consider how you can demonstrate your caring self by being the best listener possible, in every conversation you have.  Whether it is on your home front or at work, put your care for others on the line by being your best ever listening self.  Really HEAR what others have to say, putting your ideas (and ego) to the side.  If you want to really show you care, as Dr. Stephen Covey would say of Habit 5 of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, “Seek first to understand, then be understood.”  You will find yourself drawn more deeply into conversations, allowing your caring self to emerge.

And if the notion of interpersonal interaction that is deliberately more caring seems too contrived for you, perhaps you can turn your mind not to others, but to Mother Earth herself.  Consider how simply you can demonstrate your care for her.  Commit to setting up a recycling station in your home.  Learn about composting and install a composter in your backyard.  Discover for yourself and then educate your family and friends about how to be more environmentally friendly.  Show how you care for the future by being considerate and sensitive NOW, of our earth.    Leaving the world, a little better than we found it, is undisputedly demonstrating care and will invigorate you.

Earth

Gorgeous little blue planet.

I hope this week you find time to deliberately care most deeply, for others, the earth and even yourself.  In the busy-ness of our lives, we often feel we give short shrift to those people and things about whom we care most, so this week, let’s focus on doing things differently.  Regardless of your occupation or preoccupation, spend some time observing and listening to those people and things around you – connect and care for them. It will be worth the effort.

Make it a great week.

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